Sunday, April 1, 2012

A Is For Answers

First off, hello and welcome if you are stopping by from the A to Z Challenge!  Second, I did not win the Mega Millions even though I'm sure I would have been the best millionaire ever.  All my big plans will just have to wait....but onward to today's post...

So, Wednesday night, I had dinner with one of my oldest friends.  We had a wonderful, funny time catching up (two glorious hours of uninterupted dinner conversation) and went on our merry ways swearing we would get together more than just once every six months or so.  This is especially sad when we live just miles apart, but we both agreed to try to do better.

Old home week continued on my trip to WalMart, when I ran into another woman that I went to school with.  She works there and we tend to chit chat anytime I'm there, but as she was checking out my assorted items, she asked the question that most people tend to ask someone of my age, "So did you get married?  Do you have kids?"  My standard answer to the kids thing is, "Yep.  I have 80 of them and I get to send them home at 3:00 pm and do whatever I want for the rest of the day."  And that's true enough.  My students are like my children.  I love them with all I have.  I adore my niece, and my friends' children, and have great plans for all of the fun things that Aunt Katie will do with them.  But, I've said it before and I will say it again, I don't know if I want kids.  I would never say never, but the older I get, the more I feel like maybe that's not the life I am supposed to lead. 

The marriage thing is a little trickier.  I mean, to put it bluntly, it's not like any guy has asked me to marry him.  I've  never been the kind of girl who has suitors a mile wide and twice as deep.  I'm more of a "I can count them on one hand" sort of girl.   And besides, rumor has it, that unless you are some mail-order bride, a la Sarah, Plain and Tall (Katie, Short and Round does not have the same ring to it), you have to date someone first and I am not exactly great at that part.  That whole situation used to bother me, as well, but it's not really something I think about all that often anymore.  Sheena told me once that any guy who decided he wanted to be with me would have to be pretty great, because living alone as long as I have makes it hard for me to want to give up that level of independence.  And she was then, and is still, completely right.  I know how to live alone.  I am not bothered by it.  Sure, I have lonely times, but doesn't everyone?  I would never say I didn't want to get married.  If that man came along, I would jump in with both feet, but I am not waiting for it to happen either.

I love my life, crazy and funny and busy and full of all the things that life brings.  I love it just as it is, but am open to whatever comes.  And I wouldn't trade it for anything.  (But I'm pretty sure I would've been so much better at it with the MegaMillions!  HA!)


  1. Awesome post! Stopping by from the A to Z Challenge. By the way, Good for you! I'm in the same boat, sort of, maybe a different, slightly more complicated boat, but a relationship boat still the same. I'm so glad you are comfortable enough in your own skin not to buy into the Cinderella Syndrome. I don't think any relationship will work anyway if we try to conform to what everyone else thinks is right. :) But enough deep thought. I'll be stopping back by. Love your humor! Good luck and happy blogging!

  2. Hey, there! I'm stopping by from the A to Z Challenge as well. Would love to have that handy dandy linky thing on my name at the bottom of this reply that the A to Zers tried to teach us a week or so ago, but I'm not sure I got it, and I'm chicken to try.

    Boy, oh, boy, am I someone you wanna invite to your two-hour dinner to have a conversation about this one! I'm a mom to two wonderful boys. I love them. I reall do. I love my husband. Honestly. Yet, I'm a mom to two boys with multiple special needs, and that's just something you never envision when that second line appears on the EPT test. Life as you expected--marriage as you expected--totally changes.

    Wowee, what would I do in your shoes knowing what I know now? YIKES!!

    Thanks for the entry.


  3. Congratulations. I've been through like 20 blogs on the list this morning and this definitely in my top 3! Funny. I'm a teacher too. English, so wit is a must. Looking forward to reading more from ya.

    Check out mine too. PROSE-SPECTIVE.

  4. Great Blog! I didnt win the mega either :( lol

  5. Guess this means NYC has to wait, eh? Dang it!

    1. Correct, my friend! And I was already making out my plan of attack for the shows!

  6. Oh, I don't know - Katie, Short and Round rolls off the tongue rather smoothly. :) I feel the same way you do about kids (well, in all honesty, when people push me on the subject the word "never" does come out of my mouth). I'm married now, but I still think women can live a full, happy life without being married.

    Your mega-millions list is so similar to mine! Maybe next time it'll be our turn. ;)

  7. Alas. I, too, did not win the lottery. Guess I'll have to keep making my own laundry soap ;)

  8. I keep telling myself I wouldn't know what to do with mega-millions if I won them (well,that's my excuse anyway!). Just stopping by from the A-Z Challenge - good luck!

  9. Good thing I like writing...or the list I had for the mega millions would have been a waste..I love your A post...and I look forward to stopping by to see the rest of the the A-Z challenge continues! Looking forward to following u!

  10. I hope you find someone worth a little bit of your independence. It's a great thing to have so don't lose it :)

  11. A good outlook to have. Thanks for your honest and sharing.

    (on the road from A to Z)

  12. Hi there! So glad to have come upone your blog through the AZ Challenge! I love your subtitle about laughing because life if funny...or laughing instead of crying! Oh, that is ME! :) I admire anyone that can sing...and do it for an audience! Good for you! I'm looking forward to keeping in touch through the challenge and beyond! :)


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